The Magic Of NLP

"NLP is all about learning mind control and manipulating people around you.”

“It’s for salespeople who want to trick you into buying things you don’t need or want.”

“It’s used to brainwash people.”

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) often stirs thoughts of mind control and manipulation, but the truth is far more practical and transformative. Developed in the 1970s, NLP is not just about influencing others; it’s about understanding and refining your own mental processes to foster success in both life and business. Here’s how NLP can revolutionise your coaching or solopreneur journey.

NLP: Practical and Enchanting

NLP straddles the mundane and the magical.

At its core, it’s a study of excellence.

Successful figures like Oprah Winfrey and Barack Obama have harnessed NLP techniques to craft remarkable lives by understanding how their brains work and reshaping their realities. As a coach, applying NLP means not just motivating your clients but transforming procrastination into action and doubts into confidence. For example, transforming a client's passive state into proactive motivation could be as simple as changing the words they use to define their experiences.

Everyone's Behaviour Makes Sense

Every action and reaction has a context.

NLP teaches that behaviour, no matter how perplexing, has logic when seen through the lens of personal experience and beliefs.

This understanding helps stop negative cycles and propels both you and your clients forward. Consider a client who reacts defensively to feedback; through NLP, you might uncover that this stems from past criticism, enabling a shift to more constructive interactions.

Intention and Context are Key

There’s no inherent ‘good’ or ‘bad’ behaviour; everything depends on intention and context.

This principle can revolutionise how you manage interactions in your coaching business.

If a client seems unresponsive, understanding their underlying intentions can reveal new ways to engage them effectively, making your coaching sessions more impactful.

Past Does Not Dictate the Future

The empowering belief at the heart of NLP is that no one is broken. No one is fundamentally flawed.

The past is a learning tool, not a life sentence.

This perspective can free you and your clients from the chains of past failures, enabling a focus on future possibilities. For instance, a solopreneur who has faced repeated rejections might find solace in understanding that these are not reflections of incapacity but stepping stones to future success.

Perception as Projection

Our world is shaped by our perceptions, which can be both a barrier and a gateway to better interactions and opportunities.

Recognising that what we expect can dictate what we get allows for a more constructive approach to business challenges.

Coaching a client through changing their perception of ‘constant failures’ to ‘learning opportunities’ can radically change their professional outlook and results.

Making Choices Aligned with Values

Ultimately, NLP equips us with the tools to understand motivations—our own and those of the people we interact with.

This understanding is crucial for making decisions that reflect our true values.

For coaches and solopreneurs, this means ensuring that every business decision, from client relationships to service offerings, aligns with core principles, fostering a practice that is not only successful but also authentic and value-driven.

Examine Your Practice...

Take a moment to reflect on your current coaching methods. How could understanding and applying NLP enhance your effectiveness and the success of your clients?

Lets Look at AGREEMENT FRAMES

 I appreciate… and…

 I appreciate you asking me to to squeeze an a 1-on-1 session this week AND I am already at capacity for this week, I will send you a link to book in at your convenience from next week onwards.

 I respect… and…

 I respect your need to have help with that situation AND in order for me to help you in the best way possible, I will need to finish what I am doing first.

 I agree… and…

 I agree that being able to text me 24/7 could be convenient for you AND I have to switch off and spend time with my family so will only be able to respond between the hours of 8am and 7pm..

Implement this NLP technique this week and observe the changes.

Embrace NLP not just as a tool for growth but as a pathway to understanding the intricacies of human behaviour and unlocking potential in ways you never imagined.

Remember, your business' future is shaped by the choices you make today and by incorporating NLP techniques, you can guide these choices towards more insightful, empathetic, and successful coaching outcomes.